Patterns

There are patterns happen in our life, like it or not. We are most likely to make decisions based on our repeated occurrence on things that happened before. Familiarity. Sometimes we trapped in an old perspective that we know it's the best for us. 

We stop learning when we get comfortable, we just know only one way to solve a problem and keep doing it without realising it and become accustomed to us.

The most important thing is to find out the patterns that always happening in our life, what keeping you fall in the loophole of something. 

This is the importance of contemplation, something that I always doing it without knowing. To ask ourselves deeply, it feels like self judging at first, but from time to time finally I can differentiate which one is self judge and self reflection. 

This is not a one night project, it's a lifetime project. It's not easy and we need to face ourselves honestly.

Honesty is the key, don't hide with yourself. Embrace yourself as it is. Don't make an excuse of whatever you do, just acknowledge it.

It takes time just to meet your honest version, to dig all of your trauma and filter your emotion. It get messy. You have to face your ego self. You have to crush your ideal self. You are not like who do you think you are. You are you. Don't hide from yourself. It's the act of being authentic I can say.

you think that you are your traditions, you are your childhood trauma, you are your people around you. Yes, it can be parts of who made you today. But importantly, be mindful of it. Find yourself out. 

To know oneself is the key to make a mark in this world. To position yourself in the world. That's what I'm doing now.