10 things why it's harder for strong woman to find love

1. They do not settle. Strong women have high standards and even if they like someone who is not treating them the way they deserve, they will still walk away. They don’t compromise their standards for someone else and they know what kind of person they deserve to be with.

2. They’re not afraid of speaking up. They’re not afraid to tell someone what they did wrong or call someone out on their lies. This is why they’re often labeled ‘intimidating’ because they can stand up for themselves and will not hold back.

3. They don’t ‘need’ a man. They crave love and affection but they will never need a man to complete them. Love will always be a choice to them; not something they’re looking for out of fear of being alone or getting old. They’re content with their own lives and love is a sweet addition not a necessity.

4. They know how to move on. They’ve learned how to move on when they have to. They will never be the ones to beg someone to stay with them or beg for a second chance. They’re confident that they will be fine and that they will find someone better.

5. They don’t allow themselves to be options. Strong women will not tolerate being treated like an option or being part of a bunch of women someone is dating. They appreciate commitment and honesty and anything other than that is a deal breaker for them.

6. They don’t play by the ‘rules.’ In life or in love, don’t expect strong women to follow any dating practices you’re used to or play it safe. They will surprise you by how daring and bold they are and they will never shy away from anything they truly want.

7. They know how to handle rejection. They’re not afraid of the word ‘no,’ they’ve heard it before and they will continue to hear it but that doesn’t stop them from trying, strong women face more rejections because they actually go out and ask for what they want instead of waiting for things to come to them and the more risks they take, the more rejections they’ll face, but these rejections only make them stronger.

8. They ask the hard questions. They will ask the questions men like to evade, they will ask where they stand and where things are going, they will ask to meet your family and friends and be involved in your life. Strong women are passionate and curious in all aspects of their lives and dating is no exception.

9. They’ve been heartbroken before. Even though they act like they’re unbreakable, they’ve fallen in love and gotten heartbroken before, heartbreak only made them wiser but not indifferent. They still have a lot of love to give, they just need to know who is worthy of it and who is just playing with their hearts.

10. They don’t look for validation from others. Strong women look for validation from their success, their work, their friendships and how they lead their lives. They know that the right person will find them when the time is right and they don’t let their relationship status define their worth or define them. 

Source: thought catalogue

I wear my heart on my sleeve

I was the type of girl who grew up cloaked in fairy tales and drifting between happily ever afters. I often played dress-up, and without fail chose to be the princess. Every time I played with dolls, the scene remained the same; the prince came to save the damsel in distress. I grew up reading stories of people beating the odds and falling in love. I grew up believing in things that filled my heart to the brim with hope.

I was the type of girl who fantasized about her one true love and what type of life we would lead. I would daydream through car rides, train rides, bus rides, and plane rides. I would stare up at the clouds and wonder if he would see the same shapes as me; I’d wonder what he’d see in me. I’d scribble all of my little loving dreams in my diary. I’d imagine until the moon took me under its arm and cradled me to sleep.

I am the type of girl who’s always been a dreamer. I’ve always been the one people scoffed at when I talked about love. I’ve been the girl who thinks of love in a thousand different shades of the brightest colors, while the rest of the world sees black and white. I have never lived in a grey area. I live in the liveliest shade of yellow. I exist in the center of flowers, in between “I love you” and on the very edge of vulnerability.

I am the type of girl you think is absolutely crazy because I am just so crazy about love. The silliest thing about it all is that I have been hurt so much you’d be shaken to know I have never given up. But how could I give up when it’s all I used to dream of? So I continue to pick petals until this field of flowers is empty, and even then I’ll wait for the rain so they can grow again. I’ll pick every petal towards destiny.

Yet, I am also the type of girl who won’t need to be saved. I won’t be the damsel in distress I used to imagine. I have saved myself plenty of times before, because I always knew I was worth saving. I knew my heart had not met its match, so every time someone broke me... I had to fix me. I had to fix myself so I could keep dreaming. I had to keep dreaming because otherwise I’d spend my life just sleeping.

I am the type of girl who doesn’t know how not to feel. I feel so much that emotions spill from me. People have always questioned it and tried to change my ways, but they don’t know what they’re missing. They may notice when I am so deep in despair that I’m too weak to breathe for air, but they don’t notice the elation that escapes me when I can’t hold the magic of joy between my teeth. Feeling is who I am. It is my biggest weakness, but more so... it is my biggest strength.

I am the type of girl who tends to get her heart broken. I incline to trust, I lean towards risk, and I lead with the heart on my sleeve. It hasn’t always done right by me, but oh how much it has taught me. It has taught me how much of myself I will give for another, the parts I keep for myself, and the magic of putting missing pieces together with the new ones I configured. I am who I am because of my breaks, and oh my how they sparkle so brightly, dismantled together.

I am absolutely nothing like the type of girl I thought I would be. I’ve found I have more dreams than just saying “I do.” I’ve found I want to see more things than just love at first sight. I’ve found that I can feel blissful even when I am completely alone. I’ve found that I have created a reality far better than the scribbles in my diary. Yet one thing remains steady: I have never given up on love, or what it could be. I still believe it will be like seeing the brightest color and waking up from my lifelong daydream.

I am the type of girl who is full of contradictions, can never live in just one moment, laughs too hard, cries too loud, and loves harder than you’ll ever know. I am her and she is me. She is someone I am so delighted to be. I may not make sense to the rest of the world, and bystanders may shake their heads at my naivety; yet my faith remains as steady as the ocean tide, just waiting to get crashed into.

I am the type of girl who grew up on fairy tales, and I am unbendingly proud to admit that I have never given up on my own. So may we all learn to see that shade of yellow; may we all choose to believe; and may we all find the happily ever after that is so much better than what we read it would be.

May we all remember what it’s like to just innocently dream.

Dear valentine

Valentine. Some find love (clearly not me) or some find the harsh truth. I really really am happy for you who finally find someone you called love. I think the cupid is not taking on my side this year (or will it be forever?)

I just found out for the hundred times He is the man I (kinda) love (can I call it love already?)

*By the way I talk to myself a lot, debating my own mind. So, you will find any unecessary explanation*

This start when I met this guy, well older than me tbh. We chat, we laugh, we spent a short night together in his apartment.

And what I found surprising is, I have this 'I know him already' feeling like I already known him for a long time and everything was like connect so smoothly. I like him, I like the way he talk, he think and whatever he said he's complicated and have that 'God' complex whatsoever (turn out he obsessed with Godfather). He's charming, he's funny and always keep me entertained with his witty personality.

He is fun, humble and funny thing is I think he might be the one I looking for all my life. Perfect. 

What I want from him is nothing about his money or status. I want to know him. I want to know his soul. I want to understand him so deeply. I care so much about his wellbeing like I really want to offer him anything that can comfort him. I genuinely fall for him.

And once again I fall. Fall harder than before. (Yes I fell right before I met him with different man and different sad story that made me cry for days)

I waited him to text me and he did. He texted me whenever he lonely (my assumption) or when he drunk (that's a redflag huh? But I was so dumb enough to ignore it). I usually text guy first or down to chasing guy, but this time I kind of hold back and with 'we will see what happen and let the universe answer' attitude.

I research him online and offline about what he do for a living, like what kind of his company, what even fintech means and all about, everything about his job. I even search everything about that industry, all the articles about trend on finance industry and everything but what I can't find is his personal life. It keeps me questioning even more. He kind of shady. But who cares?

I never have ever question this until I have one friend that contact me first and say hi to me and wanna ask me some question about my former company I work for. We finally talk about many things and this person know him. Yes. What a coincidence (I don't believe in coincidence, I believe everything is happen for a reason. Another synchronicity in my life). I finally know that he is a married man.

Yes. A married man. He is married with another woman. Well, everything is clear now. I used to convince myself that I will never fall for married man and I will know when I spot one.

One day before valentine's day (the day I admire most because duh I'm a fucking hopeless romantic person) I know the truth.

I feel so dumb and stupid for falling for him. I blame myself for this. I know this is not my fault, I never knew this earlier and Ignore every signs. But why I never ask him at the first place, or why I never ask other people first. Why should I know this by coincidence?

Everything happens for a reason. This is the sign. Maybe my feeling was wrong. My gut that said he is the one might be wrong. Maybe my soul are lost and blind. I just want to see whatever I wanted to see. Thank you for the universe who let me know this earlier. That he cannot be mine. Now or everytime in the future. He has a wife and I respect people's commitment. I respect him and his status with his beloved wife.

So in this valentine's day, let me say goodbye to people whom I put my hope and faith for the future. I thought the universe set me up with a happy ending story this time. But yeah, who am I to hope for this lovely young man. I deserve the best, maybe I will meet him one day. Maybe not this valentine or many valentine after this.

I let you go with all my heart and my soul. Thank you for everything you have shared to me, a small sparks of your fire within you.

To you,

Mr. Universe

14 February 2017

Possession imprison you

I think possession imprison you. What people doesn't realize is that matter is not last forever, so are they.

Whatever you possess now is only temporary, your life in fact is also temporary. You are not gonna live forever.

Whatever you search for the rest of your life will be gone. Your life will be gone, and you don't even have a clue when your life will be taken away.

Whatever people search in this world, fortune, fame will not last forever. You will getting older, your beauty will fade away, your body will deceased, your fortune will not be yours anymore because you spend it on things that really don't matter.

Sadly, you waste your life just for things that doesn't matter. You will realize this in your death bed. When it's too late. You will regret the day you neglect your family, your loved ones, your whatever things that you never have before. Happiness.

Matters are great, it can be your tools to have everything you want but never make it the ultimate goals in your life or you will lost. Because you will never satisfied.

Be grateful of whatever you have today, live your life to the fullest and make the right choice.

Manifest with the moon

How to Use the Eight Moon Phases to Manifest Your Dreams

The New Moon

When the moon is new, it is time to write a manifest list. Once your list is complete, say it out loud, light a candle and place your manifest list under an eight-sided mirror in a special area in your home.

 
The Crescent Moon

When the moon is in a crescent, manifesting power is increasing. It is now time to set your intentions to add energy to your manifest list. Setting an intention is like an archer aiming the bow directly towards the target. Remember to say your intentions out loud. Direct your intentions toward the target. The target is the realization of your new moon manifest list.

 

The First Quarter

When the moon is in the first quarter, it is in the building mode. The first quarter moon asks you to make an action plan to enhance your manifesting power. Taking action toward your goals adds energy to the actualization of your manifestation list.

 
The Gibbous Moon

The Gibbous Moon is three days before the Full Moon. It is now time to increase your ability to receive what you have intended by visualizing fulfillment. Review your list, close your eyes, go into meditation, and visualize fulfillment.

 
The Full Moon

Acknowledge what you did manifest from your list. Bury your list in the earth as a symbol of what is growing for you now. You are now ready to start the releasing process. Write your release list, say it out loud, light a candle and place it under a circle mirror in a special area in your home.

 
The Disseminating Moon

It is now time to release past influences that have come forward from your memory banks to be reviewed and released. Sit quietly and meditate, contact an angel of records to be with you while meditating, and ask for the angel to guide you to a place in time (this life, or perhaps another) where the memory release needs to occur. Do whatever it takes to re-experience the memory, let go with awareness, and allow yourself and your cells to be updated. When the memory is updated, the disseminating power of the moon casts new seeds to be planted at a later date.

 
The Last Quarter

When the moon is in the last quarter, it is a time designated for releasing habitual patterns. By now you have become aware that there is one negative thing on your list that may need special attention. Perhaps an unwanted behavior, a block, a limitation, a repeating circumstance, a bad habit, or a negative situation has surfaced. The last quarter moon gives you the opportunity and the energetic support to go deeper with your releasing to break a habit or repeating pattern.

 
The Balsamic Moon

The Balsamic Moon is 72 hours before the New Moon; this is a time to enter the void, to transmute, to empty out in order to create space and prepare for the new cycle. If you have written a list, now is the time to burn it. Blow out your candle. This symbolizes your releasing process going into emptiness. Gently move into the void, be still, be silent, get rest, and take care of yourself in deep, nurturing ways.

Accept yourself and embrace yourself just the way you are

Stop Working On Yourself and Start Growing in a Deeper Way!

“I’m always working on myself. I keep working to improve myself. Personal growth is hard work!”

This all sounds very reasonable, right? But these expressions may reflect a view of personal growth that doesn't really support our growth. Maybe I’m being picky, but the expression “I’m working on myself” implies that we view personal growth as a process of dissecting, prodding, or poking ourselves to fit neatly into some vision of how we’d like to be. It implies that there’s a self that we don’t like or accept—or that we feel ashamed of. This vigilant and critical attitude can undermine personal growth by energizing an inner critic that is constantly watching over us—blaming us when we’ve blown it and badgering us to improve ourselves. 

How we conceptualize and pursue personal growth makes a crucial difference between actually growing and clinging to a self-imageof someone who’s growing. We’re more empowered to move toward our deeper potential if we hold ourselves with a more gentle, self-accepting attitude. 

Embracing Ourselves As We Are

We’re not a chunk of clay that needs to be muscularly molded and shaped. We’re sensitive human beings who need acceptance and love, especially from ourselves. Like a plant that receives ample sunlight and water, we grow when conditions are supportive. Positive change and growth happen as we allow ourselves the potent nutrients of self-acceptance and gentleness. As psychologist Carl Rogers famously said, “The curious paradox is that when I can accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Such self-acceptance allows for an emotional self-regulation and inner peace that is not perilously dependent upon acceptance from others.

What helps us to grow and evolve is self-awareness and mindfulness. We may be searching for “self-improvement,” but personal growth happens through an active process of deeply listening to ourselves and affirming ourselves as we are. Being eager to work on ourselves may only increase an anxious self-vigilance and blind drivenness, which sabotage our growth. We grow more assuredly as we embrace our human vulnerabilities, which means slowing down, noticing and befriending our genuine feelings, and hearing what they might be trying to tell us. For example, we might notice sadness or shame, which might prompt us to address a concern in a relationship or to make amends to someone we’ve hurt.

Self-acceptance means bringing a kind, gentle presence to the hurt places inside us. Being human means that feelings of fear, hurt, grief, and sadness sometimes arise. We don’t need to “work on ourselves," as if something’s wrong with us for having these normal emotions. We simply need to create a loving, accepting space for them. I say “simply” as if it’s easy. But achieving the simplicity of allowing our experience its precious life is no easy task!

The goal—if there is any goal—is not to “work on ourselves” so that human pain no longer arises or that nothing upsets us. Growth doesn't mean permanently eradicating fear and insecurity, but rather relating to these feelings in a more spacious way. Mindfulness practices and Eugene Gendlin's Focusing, which is a type of mindfulness practice that is based on solid research, can help us be with our feelings in a way that does not overwhelm us.

The path forward is to kindly allow ourselves to be just as we are—and to flow more gracefully with our ever-changing human experience. Important life lessons and wisdom develop in a climate of self-acceptance, not self-denigration. No longer fighting ourselves, we may enjoy more moments of inner peace.

Psychologist and meditation teacher Tara Brach offers a helpful inquiry in her book True Refuge:

“Explore what you are experiencing more closely, calling on your natural interest and curiosity about your inner life. You might ask yourself, ‘What about this most wants my attention?' or, ‘What wants my acceptance?' Pose your question gently, with your inner voice kind and inviting.”

Being Gentle with Our Limitations

Self-acceptance doesn’t mean being blind to our flaws and limits. It includes noticing when we’ve fallen short. Perhaps we’ve violated someone’s dignity through our words or actions. Or, we’ve dishonored our own values through a lapse of integrity.

A small dose of healthy shame might prompt us to offer an apology or remind us to live with greater sensitivity to others. Our growth then involves learning a lesson or being reminded of what’s important to us—and then forgivingourselves and moving forward with greater mindfulness and sensitivity.

The “work” that’s required is that of self-awareness, not some onerous self-discipline that the term “work” implies. Buddhism calls it Right Effort or Skillful Effort, which is simply the effort to be mindful of what is present--what is alive inside us right now.

If you’re still fond of the expression, “I’m working on myself,” please consider that the progress you’re hoping for happens more robustly through an attitude of radical self-acceptance. The practice of gently noticing what is there brings more simplicity to our task.

Again, such simple attentiveness does not come easily! I might even add (with a smile) that it takes a lot of work! But this is the work of inner attention, not self-manipulation. It's the patient effort of bringing loving attention to the uncomfortable places within ourselves--again and again. It’s the lifelong task of being more kind and accepting toward ourselves--cultivating self-patience, continually forgiving ourselves as we inevitably fall short, and humbly learning lessons as we stumble forward.

Gradually, we might discover this: what mostly feels like “work” results from cleaning up the messes created by lapses in self-awareness and self-acceptance. For example, if we vent anger toward our partner when we're really feeling hurt, it takes much effort to clean up the damage we might have created.  If we can be courageously aware of the hurt and sadness beneath our anger--and then reveal these more vulnerable feelings to our partner--we could avoid a lot of agonizing work! 

As we move toward being with ourselves in an accepting way, it feels less like work. Being less poised to resist the flow of life, we open to our pain, relish pleasure, and allow our experience to be just as it is--and to come and go as it does. Growth happens as we no longer block ourselves from experiencing the natural flow of life. It means developing a more easeful intimacy with ourselves and with life. Resisting life less, we move toward a deeper sense of well-being and happiness.

© John Amodeo

Source : psychology today

Everglow

Everglow

oh they say people come, say people go
this particular diamond was extra special
and though you might be gone, and the world may not know
still I see you, celestial

like a lion you ran,  a goddess you rolled
like an eagle you circled, in perfect purple
so how come things move on, how come cars don’t slow
when it feels like the end of my world
when I should but I can’t let you go?

but when I’m cold, cold
oh when I’m cold, cold
there’s a light that you give me when I’m in shadow
there’s a feeling you give me, an everglow

like brothers in blood, sisters who ride
and we swore on that night we’d be friends til we die
but the changing of winds, and the way waters flow
life as short as the falling of snow
and now I’m gonna miss you I know

but when I’m cold, cold
in water rolled, salt
I know that you’re with me and the way you will show
and you’re with me wherever I go
and you give me this feeling this everglow

oh- I I I I
what I wouldn’t give for just a moment to hold
yeah I live for this feeling this everglow

so if you love someone, you should let them know
oh the light that you left me will everglow

Everything, Past, Present and Future is Linked

Everything, Past, Present and Future is Linked

There is no such thing as chance or coincidence. Synchronicity springs from the deepest source of destiny. Synchronicity is the law of unity. We are all linked through our unconscious. We are connected by unknown forces. We unconsciously telegraph our thoughts. There is no separation between you and anyone or anything. Everything is connected. The rules of cause and effect do not apply to synchronistic events.

The experiences of us all are written into the database of the universe. So you have access to all the knowledge of the past, present and future.

Energy Cannot be Destroyed – Thoughts are Energy

According to the laws of physics, energy and matter cannot be created or destroyed. Your thoughts are energy. Therefore your thoughts can never be destroyed.

Your thoughts are immortal.

Your consciousness creates space, time and matter. According to physics when your mind observes something, you change that something. Its called “The Observer Effect“. You make the future happen.

We can’t see much of the physical world. Our senses process very little.There is an invisible, hidden world out there.

A cat hears and sees a different range of light and sound than humans. Does that mean because we can’t see what the cat sees it isn’t there? The surprising answer is sometimes, yes! According to quantum physics when you look at something you bring that something into reality. When you turn away it no longer exists. It only appears when you or someone else observes it.

What you see is only accurate and complete for you. It’s your interpretation. Your interpretation is based on your “internal reality”, your thoughts. Thoughts shape the invisible energy around you. The cause of your world is your thoughts.

Your mind is holographic, each part of it has knowledge of the whole. In the same way that each cell of your body has information about your whole body, your mind has information about the whole universe. Scientists can clone (duplicate) an organism using a single cell. All the information of the whole is in a single cell. We all began as a single cell. In each cell all the information of life is present.

There is an astonishing fact though. Not all your cells have been activated. According to Nobel Prize winning neuropsychiatrist Eric Kandel, when you learn your mind affects which cells in your brain neurons are “switched on”. In other words, your mind decides which cells should be turned on. You decide which cells to activate.

Consciousness (your thoughts) create everything in your future. Your mind cannot be located in space and time. It is everywhere, at the same time. Your mind goes beyond space and time and actually creates them. Energy fields are unobservable and influence the matter they come into contact with. Your mind produces energy fields that stretch across the universe. These fields can’t be measured. They are invisible forces.

Belief is the Trigger

Your consciousness can make things happen directly, but a much easier way is to “Organize Chance Events in your Favor“. This is important. Synchronicity can organize random chance events to create an outcome of your choosing. Chance events align themselves to your advantage when you focus your attention on them. You are capable of doing this, but most don’t believe they can.

Belief is the trigger for synchronicity, the law of attraction and any psychic ability. If you don’t believe, then you can’t activate this extraordinary gift. Your brain won’t process information that it doesn’t expect to see. If you are not open to believing, something could be right in front of you and you still won’t see it.

Your future path is not set. It’s very simple, if something is possible, no matter how improbable, you can make it happen. Your future can be altered by your present emotions. You can break all the laws of probability. All future outcomes are possible . You decide. Don’t concern yourself with the details. They are far too complex to understand. Start with something simple to give yourself belief. Then you realize there are no limits.

Emotions are Energy

Your energy has its own unique signature. By focusing your emotions on what you want, you engineer your future. Events can be set in motion to answer your requests. This is called reality creation.

You must consciously force your mind to influence your life. It’s one simple step that changes your life immediately.

Synchronicity tends to happen when you need it. Have you noticed when you are ready to receive something you usually do? Have you ever had a perfect day, when everything went just right? People and things just appeared at exactly the right moment? That’s synchronicity. If you arrived a few seconds earlier or later things wouldn’t have turned out the same. Timing was everything. You were in the right place at the right time. It wasn’t luck or chance. You were in perfect harmony with your surroundings.

What is Synchronicity?

Synchronicity is an unconscious awareness of life. It is a set of messages. These messages are life changing. Synchronicity is an unlikely or impossible coincidence that cannot be explained by luck or chance. It is also a prophecy, a predictor of the future.

When you are in sync with the “thing” that you want you are much more likely to meet that “thing”. That is why similar people always seem to meet. They are tuned in to the same frequency.

When your vibration matches that which you seek you are destined to collide. When your frequency is the same as what you desire, the universe will always find a way to give you what you want. If you switch on the radio you won’t hear anything clearly unless you tune into the right frequency. Only when you tune in can you hear clearly. What you think is intuition is actually a strong signal from the universe.

Intensity is the Key to your Destiny

Synchronicity is seen more frequently by people who believe it to be true. Why? Well, if you say an event was just chance or luck you are sending a weak message or signal to the universe. Your mind does what you want and the universe listens. It will ignore what you don’t believe. It won’t point out something you are not interested in. But the more you pay attention the more you will see.

With synchronicity you don’t work hard to make things happen. You just let things happen. No force on your part is required. You can have far more energy without using your will. Synchronicities flow very fast when you believe them to be true.

Synchronicity is a mirror and whatever you believe will be reflected back at you. If you agree with the law of synchronicity then you connect more deeply and send out a strong message (ripple), which creates more synchronicity and coincidence in your favor. You are in harmony with what you seek.

The secret of synchronicity is to be “Consciously Aware”. If you are consciously aware of something you can immediately see and feel what others cannot. Synchronicity is a significant, highly improbable coincidence. The stronger your belief and intention, the faster your synchronicities are revealed.

Most of the knowledge from your subconscious mind can never be passed to your conscious mind because the knowledge it is too vast. So your subconscious reveals just enough for you to understand your world. But you must be open to receive this knowledge. You have to “tune in” to the universe. You must pay attention to your thoughts and to the world around you.

Intensity allows everything to synchronize faster. Make a decision. Believe it with your heart and soul. Then watch as quantum mechanics organizes events in your favor. This is science. The only limits are your beliefs.

Chance

Synchronicity and chance can also operate in reverse and meaningful coincidences can be unpleasant. If you say, “I’m going to be late” or “I’m unlucky”, then the law of synchronicity works against you.

If you expect bad things to happen then you are synchronizing with negativity. Have you noticed how many bad things can happen at the same time? This happens because you are consciously willing and supporting what you don’t want. Your subconscious is listening. Be clear about your intentions.

Definition of Coincidence

We have a very limited understanding of coincidence. Science says if something cannot be quantified or calculated then it is not true. This is called “The Experimental Method”. But science cannot explain everything. Your mind sees beyond the five senses of sight, smell, hearing, taste and touch. Your mind is free to travel anywhere across time and space. Time and space are just a construct of the human mind. Have you ever had an unbelievable chance meeting? Bumped into someone in a very unusual place? Chance meetings can be life changing.

Just because you can’t see the connection or reason for something happening does not mean there is no connection. There is always a connection, a reason. The reason becomes apparent at some point in time.

Carl Jung

It was psychologist Carl Jung who originally used the term synchronicity in his 1952 essay, “Synchronicity: An Acausal Connecting Principal”, to describe chance happenings between unconnected people or events. Another term Jung used was the “Collective Unconscious”. We are all connected by our unconscious minds.

Consciousness and matter are linked. We might look different but we are all made of the same stuff. A mountain, a tree, a person, we are all made of the same ingredients.

An experiment by French physicist Alain Aspect in 1982 showed that when two particles (photons) are separated and one of them is given a different charge (positive or negative) the other particle, instantly, without any time delay also changes its charge. It didn’t matter if the particles were one mile apart or one million miles apart. It’s called Quantum Entanglement or Quantum Nonlocality. Time and space don’t seem to exist. Future experiments have verified the original experiments beyond any reasonable doubt. This breaks Albert Einstein’s law that nothing travels faster than the speed of light. Einstein himself called quantum physics, “spooky action at a distance”. Quantum mechanics is where the magic takes place. It is the structure of the universe. Quantum mechanics states that our physical reality is incomplete.

 

 

In 1919 before Carl Jung used the word synchronicity the Austrian biologist Dr Paul Kammerer who studied coincidence used the word “Seriality” in his book The Law of Seriality. Einstein said the idea of “Seriality” was “interesting, and by no means absurd“.

The Universe is Talking to you

A significant coincidence is when the universe is talking to you. Pay attention to the invisible forces in your life. When the universe “speaks”, listen. Are you listening? Listening and being ready to receive creates amazing synchronicity. Look carefully for opportunities. Be a participant.

Coincidences let you know you are going in the right direction. You are following the right path. Try to find the message in the coincidence. Does it resonate with your intuition? Listen to your “Higher Self”.

Quiet your mind and listen. When you have multiple coincidences this means you are resonating perfectly with the universe. The only reason this does not happen all the time is because most of us don’t know why these amazing circumstances come about or just refuse to believe in synchronously occurring events.

Unconscious Awareness

The more deeply you connect, the more synchronicities you will encounter. The more you learn about synchronicity the easier it will be for you to see moments of synchronously happenings in your life.

Synchronicity happens when you really want something. When you predict an event you automatically increase the chances of it happening. But when you believe something is going to happen, I mean really believe, like you believe the sun will rise tomorrow, then you create certainty. Believing is the hardest part. If you can overcome this, you become invincible.

To make that event a certainty you must believe with certainty. By believing you add psychic energy to the event.

Synchronicities

To have limitless synchronicities in your life you must first let go of past beliefs. Then everything will seem to just fall into place. Try not to plan too far ahead. Then you will be more open to what you receive. This often turns out to be better than what you expected.

Synchronicities tend to happen when they are needed. Be responsive to them. Put your logical self on hold. Pay attention to your inner feelings. Your very deepest feelings.

Focus on synchronicity for just one day and see what happens. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain from synchronicity. Your life will never be at the mercy of chance again. Synchronicities improve your intuition. Your thoughts create synchronicities. Examples can be seen everywhere.

Seeing Numbers

Do you see the same numbers appearing over and over again? When you look at your watch or a clock do the same numbers keep showing up? Numbers on buses? Numbers on documents?

There is the 1111 phenomenon. It is the most widely reported sequence of numbers that people see.

Your DNA is a series of numbers. What do these numbers mean? Numbers are messages. What should you do? Look carefully at the numbers and try and see if they match an upcoming event or a partners birthday. Examine all areas of your life to see if you can connect the dots between the numbers. Numbers are very powerful synchronicities. Don’t ignore them. Numbers point to order in the universe.

Intuition

Intuition is an internal synchronicity. It appears suddenly and feels real. Always trust your intuition. Intuition happens when the universe sends you a message but wishes to remain anonymous. Intuition predicts your future destiny. It is a glimpse into the hidden structure of life, a clue to the origin of reality.

Creating Your Future

Now that you know more about synchronicity here are six things for you to think about.

Your life has a very special meaning.Events in your life have meaning.These events are telling you something.Practicing awareness of your life’s events is the best way to see the messages.By following the messages you are following your destiny.Going one step further is the key that gives you everything. Instead of figuring out the meaning of events in your life, you create them with your thoughts. It’s a paradox because it’s the easiest and the hardest thing to do. Once you go down the rabbit hole, you can’t come back, because infinity has no limits.

Everything in your life has happened because you have attracted it. Now is your opportunity to take control and be in command. Take advantage of coincidence.

Every breath and every step that you take on this earth influences others.

Synchronicity is also a sign of a Spiritual Awakening.

The reason you are reading this page is due to synchronicity. What bought you here? What has changed inside of you?

Chances are, chance will help

Source : the tree of awakening

All or nothing girl

The all or nothing girl is the girl who despises the middle ground. She’s either completely in love with something or not at all and she applies this to all aspects of her life. Here are six things to know about the all or nothing girls in the world.

1. She doesn’t have a large social circle, but the friends she does have in her life are incredibly important to her. She doesn’t invest her time in people unless she feels absolutely sure of them which is why she only has a few, although very highly valued, close friends but a tonne of acquaintances.

2. Even if you only date for a few months, she’ll be devastated when you break up. She will only date someone if she’s genuinely interested in a future with them and she feels there is reasonable possibility of that happening. She simply won’t date someone she isn’t crazy about because she doesn’t see the point if she’s not completely invested in the relationship.

3. She changes jobs more often than others because if she doesn’t really love her job, she won’t feel motivated and she hates the feeling of mediocrity in any part of her life. Her career is important to her, she wants to feel excited about her role and once she finds the job that she loves getting up for, she’ll stay and work her ass off.

4. She becomes borderline obsessed with any television show/ movie/book she enjoys. Because she doesn’t like to waste her time watching or reading something that doesn’t really captivate her attention, when she finds something that does, she will want to relive the feeling it gives her over and over.

5. She can be indecisive, but once she’s made a decision she’s stubborn as hell. She doesn’t make any decision lightly, whether it’s choosing between still and sparkling water at brunch or deciding whether or not to buy that apartment. If she’s not 100% sure about something she won’t want it in her life, so if she does choose something you had better believe you’re not changing her mind.

6. She’s outspoken and passionate. She has strong opinions and she has no problem voicing them because she is so passionate about what she speaks about. She does research on topics that she finds intriguing because she wants to know as much as possible about it. If she takes the time to tell you about something, listen because she knows what she’s talking about and she wants to share her knowledge with you

To you, who cares a little just not enough

You know how she feels. She makes it obvious every time you’re around her. With her, nothing is every complicated but so simple. There aren’t games and you know you could have her if you wanted at the snap of a finger.

I know all guys like the chase. They like someone who is a little challenging and keeps them on their toes guessing. They like someone who is a little out of reach and makes them work for their affection, time and attention.

But with her, she makes it easy. You know every text and snap will be answered. You know if you asked, the answer would always be yes. You have her read like a book you’ve memorized and to you, it’s no fun.

So you come in and out of her life as you please. And there are days you miss her a little bit, other days you’re just curious if she’ll still answer with the same enthusiasm she’s shown you from day one.

So you play the game. Texting but not answering. Likes just because. Opening things and simply putting down your phone because you can. It’s a game of give and take. You’re always on the taking end, making up rules as you please.

But one day she’s going to get tired of it. Because as simple and easy going as she might be, she’s no fool. As sure as she is about you and how she feels, she knows with certainty you aren’t as confident in her.

Even the best of people with the most genuine intentions get tired of waiting for what they deserve.

You like her when you’re bored but ignore her when you’re busy.

Thoughts play in your mind, ‘how little can I do and how much can I get away with and how far can I push her?’

You like knowing she cares regardless of how you treat her.

We all like immediate gratification and getting things quickly. (We all like freebies once in awhile.)

Yes, she may love you a little too easily and wear her heart on her sleeve but what you don’t see is how rare she is.

The thing is, she doesn’t see it either. Maybe she’s too focused on you and everyone else to realize how different she is.

But that day will come where she’s going to stop trying. Because one day she’ll be at a crossroads with you, where she realizes, ‘I gave my best and I have nothing more to give him.’

She’ll turn away regretfully because she really did care for you and just know it took everything in her to give up on you.

Girls like her don’t give up on people often. But when they do, that’s it.

There comes a point where you can’t keep caring for someone who doesn’t reciprocate it.

One day your name will appear and she won’t answer. Maybe you’ll cross paths and you’ll see the change in her. She won’t jump and her heart won’t race and she’ll look right through you.

It’ll be in that moment she is standing a foot in front of you, that you miss her most.

Because with her, she’ll gracefully exit your life with the same smile she had when she entered it. She’ll have no ill feelings towards you because she’ll walk away knowing she gave you her best and she’ll still respect you even though you couldn’t do the same.

So my advice to you, the same person who cares a little just not enough, if you haven’t lost her yet, I’d say take a chance on her. You have everything to lose here.

Girls like her come once or twice in a lifetime if you’re lucky. And maybe she wasn’t the most challenging, maybe her love wasn’t something you had to earn. But unconditional love is the kind that changes you.

The only thing you’ll regret more than not loving the right girl when you had the chance will be having played her like a game.

Because girls like her created the rules and it ends with her winning every time