Revenge

That realization came to me about the revenge most people had including me. When you find people treated you not the way you wanted to either rejection or abandonment, you might link that feeling to your unresolved trauma back in the past. You have the urge to give back whatever treatment that people gave you, you became bitter and find a way to give them a lesson. The point here is you think you have the right to judge them and convict them and you try your best to make them feel the heartache.

The problem on the revenge is you can't break the cycle, you will end up more suffer than before. The question you need to ask after the revenge is what next? That person get what they supposed to get and then what? Now, not only you who hurt but other people also. Nobody wins. You are both losers. 

So how to break the cycle? No revenge. Period. Let themselves redeemed it not from you, maybe from other people. Maybe not now, maybe later in life. It's not your problem. Somebody say to me, if somebody mistreated you, they carry your bad karma with them. Let them carry it for their life.

Backfire

Do you remember anything that came up from your mouth? Be careful because it can backfire to you. This is not only for every people who read this but me also. 

Always keep your promises because universe write it down. And you need to be responsible for everything that you do in this world .

Distortion

The longer the memories linger, the more distorted it can get. You put more spice to it. Sometimes it get worst overtime, you put more drama in your head. Past can be clouded with your mixed emotions and unresolved trauma.

That's why the faster you finish it the faster you can heal or the wound can get deeper and deeper. The closure won't come from other people. The closure is within you. You need to remember, the more distorted the memories the darker it gets. You need to realize that. Accept the memories as it is. 

It's done and it finished, even seconds after it happened. Life goes on and so are you. Chin up .

Let it be. Angry.

Being angry is a natural reaction when your expectations doesn't match your reality. Like a child you can throw a tantrum when you don't get what you want. It's normal and it's okay. you are just being human. How to cope with anger is the most important here. First, ask yourself how you usually cope with your own anger? How is your anger management so far? Did you get violent? Did you run? Did you even afraid and blame yourself for being angry? Take a moment and just watch your own reaction. Don't stop, just watch. are you getting better when you do whatever you do? If Yes, ask more questions to yourself is it harmful for you or other people? If not keep doing it. The anger is within you after all, sometimes it doesn't have to be about other people, even the people you angry with doesn't even care about you and your feelings. It's okay and what you need to do is channeling the anger. The anger is about you that triggered by some kind of memories. The memories doesn't even exist again. You always have the choice, to be angry or not.