Revenge

That realization came to me about the revenge most people had including me. When you find people treated you not the way you wanted to either rejection or abandonment, you might link that feeling to your unresolved trauma back in the past. You have the urge to give back whatever treatment that people gave you, you became bitter and find a way to give them a lesson. The point here is you think you have the right to judge them and convict them and you try your best to make them feel the heartache.

The problem on the revenge is you can't break the cycle, you will end up more suffer than before. The question you need to ask after the revenge is what next? That person get what they supposed to get and then what? Now, not only you who hurt but other people also. Nobody wins. You are both losers. 

So how to break the cycle? No revenge. Period. Let themselves redeemed it not from you, maybe from other people. Maybe not now, maybe later in life. It's not your problem. Somebody say to me, if somebody mistreated you, they carry your bad karma with them. Let them carry it for their life.