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30.000 Days to Live

I had a conversation with a guy before, he was working as a web programmer who travel the world. He was born in Jakarta but went outside the country in the 90s. He live in canada until he was 30, and decided to leave everything behind. Now he only have a laptop, and a backpack. His dream is to live his life to fullest not attach to things or place. We never met but I always remember our conversation.

We talked about everything and he gave me this link about you have 30.000 days to live. He share this to me because this particular article is the one that really made him realize and start his journey. Actually I know that we have to live to the fullest and enjoy our life, but this time it give me the thought. 

You have 30.000 days to live

Think about it. Did you know that you actually have 30,000 days of life to experience? When you lump it up into one sum number and take away the years, it doesn’t really seem like that many days. It sounds a lot better when we put it into perceptive in years, seeing as we look at years as long periods of time and days as short periods of time. To have just a mere 30,000 days to live means there really isn’t as much time as we originally thought. The average age people live up to is 82 years old, and even that is not guaranteed. It’s not like there is a certain assured time we will all make it to. 82 years is nothing more than merely an average. If you take that average 82 years and multiple it by the 365 days in a year, the number you end up with is roughly 30,000 days of living, so for purposes of this article we’ll stick to that. But one is not to forget, this isn’t a marathon leading up to the 30,000th day. This is the game of life, and anything could happen at anytime. Most people don’t even get 30,000 days, but some people make it past 30,000 days.

Think about your life and how a good amount of those 30,000 days have already passed by. Some days have been well spent, others maybe not so much. People across centuries have tried to figure out the accurate definition of life. One thing to remember is that there is no true definition of life, as life is series of events that are unique to each individual. No person ever lives the same 30,000 days as someone else – that’s the beauty of life. If it was the same for all of us, we would be living like robots with our lives planned out for us. But wait a second. Isn’t that what life has turned out to be? More and more people have accepted life as something that is predestined, rather than something that is waiting to undergo change, like an empty canvas. The thing about living 30,000 days is that they go by faster than you would ever accept. Look back at your life up to this point, and think to yourself how fast it really went by. Even if you wasted a day, it’s still a day gone by and one that you can never get back. Life is about living to the fullest, as everyone knows, and thanks to Drake for constantly reminding us with his ever so popular acronym. 

Unfortunately, I can’t tell you how to live your life because it would be unfair to generalize everyone’s life with one person’s concise understanding and doings, but what I can tell you is how not to spend your 30,000 days. The goal of life is to be on your last of the 30,000 days, and when you look back through your mental timeline, you have a smile on your face. The issue is most people regret a lot of their actions and can’t look back with a smile. Thus, the point of this is to help you avoid just that and to be one of the few that actually enjoys life without feeling like you just have to live it to live it. Here are the things you shouldn’t do during your 30,000 days: 

Don’t do something you hate.

According to Business Insider, the average person spends about 90,000 hours of their life working. To put it into perspective, that is about 3,750 days out of your 30,000 days to live. That’s roughly 10 percent of your life dedicated to what you do to earn a living. Many people have forgotten that your job and the industry you’re in is actually a choice, rather than something you have to do because it seems like the safe and right thing, or even something that was pushed upon you by your parents. A recent Gallup poll showed proof that out of 100 million Americans, 70 million actually hate their jobs. This comes as not much of a surprise, as you will constantly hear people say they hate what they do, hate their jobs and don’t feel moved by it. What you need to realize is that there is a difference between a job and a career. A job is something that you have in the short term, and you use it to get by, without being so actively engaged, and just doing the bare minimum to get by. A career is a passion. It is what you love to do. It is what keeps you up late at night working, and it is what truly doesn’t even feel like work. Don’t be one of those many people on this planet that gets sucked into a job and stays miserable with it forever. 

Don’t be with someone you don’t want to be with.

You see it all the time, especially in Generation-Y. People nowadays have a tough time managing their love lives and end up stuck in relationships with people they don’t really want to be with. These people might be with them for stupid reasons like they’re too insecure to move on, or they’re actually afraid to be alone. If you don’t want to be with someone, and if they don’t make you happy, then what is the point of dating them? Essentially, getting stuck in this type of situation is a waste of time, and it is a waste of a good portion of your 30,000 days. It is not written it stone anywhere that we have to always be dating, nor does it say that we should stay with someone we don’t want to be with, but have something holding us back. There are 3.5 billion people of the opposite sex out there. I’m sure there is someone better out there for you, rather than wasting your time and energy with someone that won’t be apart of your life in a year. Explore a little, live a little and meet new people.

Don’t get too caught up.

 I once met someone that had a good chunk of his life taken away to federal prison – ten years to be exact, for committing a white-collar crime. I spoke to him a few months after he became a free man again and asked about the biggest thing he learned from his whole experience. The one thing he stressed to me, out of everything, was that he learned how to appreciate life. Most of us – all of us – have the issue of getting too caught up with things in life that don’t really matter and fail to realize the true beauty of life. He told me that he now appreciates the smallest things, whether it’s a beautiful day, or a rainy day. Life is about being present and being grateful for the moments and the little things that we are given. When we are not present, like most of us usually are as we’re constantly on our phones and worrying about things that have nothing to do with the present, that is when we miss out on the true beauty of life, where the “little things” are. 

Don’t be someone you are not. 

If you speak to anyone on the brink of their last few days of life and you ask what is one of the few things they regret, one of the greatest regrets a person dwells on is that they ended up trying to be someone they aren’t over the course of their life. We live in a world where people within our society are constantly looking to be accepted and searching for the approval of others, rather than just being comfortable with themselves. For example, the thirst is real on social media – if you haven’t noticed. Life isn’t about who you try to be, or who you pretend to be, so that you can feel like you are a part of something. It’s about living on your own terms and being the person you want to be. If you are constantly wearing a mask, and at some point you take that mask off, your true identity may not be under it anymore. 

Don’t be a crybaby.

Life isn’t about being a crybaby and finding every excuse to make as to why things aren’t working out. It’s about being resourceful and finding a way to solve problems and constantly excel. Making excuses, placing the blame and whining like a bitch won’t get you too far, and no one will feel bad for you. Be that person that looks at challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than signs of defeat. Don’t be involved in drama. A buddy of mine and I had a conversation recently. This friend is someone I grew up with, and we were laughing at the things we were so worried about ten years ago that don’t have any significance now, and the same thing goes for the things that we thought were important just five years ago. Being someone that is involved in drama, talking shit or trying to get the latest gossip on things may seem fun at the time, and it may seem somewhat important because you are really interested in the matter in the moment, but consider how much simpler your life could be if you distanced yourself from all the drama and stopped worrying about nonsense that won’t matter in a few years.

Don’t forget to smile. 

It’s such a simple act, but an act that we, as humans, tend to take for granted. Give someone a smile that wouldn’t expect it, or take a few minutes out of your busy day just to laugh to yourself about something you may find funny. It is said that laughing helps you live longer. Act like a kid, and enjoy the moments that life throws your way, rather than over-thinking them. 

Don’t over-think. 
Do you ever realize when you start thinking too much, you can’t sleep, start imagining situations that aren’t necessarily happening and start becoming more hesitant? As great of an ability as thinking is, you need to cut down on it and go with your gut instinct. Be present in the moment, rather than being there physically and somewhere else mentally. Closing thought: In the grand scheme of things, 30,000 days isn’t that much time. Each day ahead of you is another chance for you to enjoy the beauty of life and the little things that we are lucky enough to experience as humans. Don’t take life too seriously, and for the times it gets tough, get a helmet.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/you-have-30000-days-to-live/

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Think about it. Did you know that you actually have 30,000 days of life to experience? When you lump it up into one sum number and take away the years, it doesn’t really seem like that many days. It sounds a lot better when we put it into perceptive in years, seeing as we look at years as long periods of time and days as short periods of time. To have just a mere 30,000 days to live means there really isn’t as much time as we originally thought. The average age people live up to is 82 years old, and even that is not guaranteed. It’s not like there is a certain assured time we will all make it to. 82 years is nothing more than merely an average. If you take that average 82 years and multiple it by the 365 days in a year, the number you end up with is roughly 30,000 days of living, so for purposes of this article we’ll stick to that. But one is not to forget, this isn’t a marathon leading up to the 30,000th day. This is the game of life, and anything could happen at anytime. Most people don’t even get 30,000 days, but some people make it past 30,000 days. Think about your life and how a good amount of those 30,000 days have already passed by. Some days have been well spent, others maybe not so much. People across centuries have tried to figure out the accurate definition of life. One thing to remember is that there is no true definition of life, as life is series of events that are unique to each individual. No person ever lives the same 30,000 days as someone else – that’s the beauty of life. If it was the same for all of us, we would be living like robots with our lives planned out for us. But wait a second. Isn’t that what life has turned out to be? More and more people have accepted life as something that is predestined, rather than something that is waiting to undergo change, like an empty canvas. The thing about living 30,000 days is that they go by faster than you would ever accept. Look back at your life up to this point, and think to yourself how fast it really went by. Even if you wasted a day, it’s still a day gone by and one that you can never get back. Life is about living to the fullest, as everyone knows, and thanks to Drake for constantly reminding us with his ever so popular acronym. Unfortunately, I can’t tell you how to live your life because it would be unfair to generalize everyone’s life with one person’s concise understanding and doings, but what I can tell you is how not to spend your 30,000 days. The goal of life is to be on your last of the 30,000 days, and when you look back through your mental timeline, you have a smile on your face. The issue is most people regret a lot of their actions and can’t look back with a smile. Thus, the point of this is to help you avoid just that and to be one of the few that actually enjoys life without feeling like you just have to live it to live it. Here are the things you shouldn’t do during your 30,000 days: Don’t do something you hate. According to Business Insider, the average person spends about 90,000 hours of their life working. To put it into perspective, that is about 3,750 days out of your 30,000 days to live. That’s roughly 10 percent of your life dedicated to what you do to earn a living. Many people have forgotten that your job and the industry you’re in is actually a choice, rather than something you have to do because it seems like the safe and right thing, or even something that was pushed upon you by your parents. A recent Gallup poll showed proof that out of 100 million Americans, 70 million actually hate their jobs. This comes as not much of a surprise, as you will constantly hear people say they hate what they do, hate their jobs and don’t feel moved by it. What you need to realize is that there is a difference between a job and a career. A job is something that you have in the short term, and you use it to get by, without being so actively engaged, and just doing the bare minimum to get by. A career is a passion. It is what you love to do. It is what keeps you up late at night working, and it is what truly doesn’t even feel like work. Don’t be one of those many people on this planet that gets sucked into a job and stays miserable with it forever. Don’t be with someone you don’t want to be with. You see it all the time, especially in Generation-Y. People nowadays have a tough time managing their love lives and end up stuck in relationships with people they don’t really want to be with. These people might be with them for stupid reasons like they’re too insecure to move on, or they’re actually afraid to be alone. If you don’t want to be with someone, and if they don’t make you happy, then what is the point of dating them? Essentially, getting stuck in this type of situation is a waste of time, and it is a waste of a good portion of your 30,000 days. It is not written it stone anywhere that we have to always be dating, nor does it say that we should stay with someone we don’t want to be with, but have something holding us back. There are 3.5 billion people of the opposite sex out there. I’m sure there is someone better out there for you, rather than wasting your time and energy with someone that won’t be apart of your life in a year. Explore a little, live a little and meet new people. Don’t get too caught up. I once met someone that had a good chunk of his life taken away to federal prison – ten years to be exact, for committing a white-collar crime. I spoke to him a few months after he became a free man again and asked about the biggest thing he learned from his whole experience. The one thing he stressed to me, out of everything, was that he learned how to appreciate life. Most of us – all of us – have the issue of getting too caught up with things in life that don’t really matter and fail to realize the true beauty of life. He told me that he now appreciates the smallest things, whether it’s a beautiful day, or a rainy day. Life is about being present and being grateful for the moments and the little things that we are given. When we are not present, like most of us usually are as we’re constantly on our phones and worrying about things that have nothing to do with the present, that is when we miss out on the true beauty of life, where the “little things” are. Don’t be someone you are not. If you speak to anyone on the brink of their last few days of life and you ask what is one of the few things they regret, one of the greatest regrets a person dwells on is that they ended up trying to be someone they aren’t over the course of their life. We live in a world where people within our society are constantly looking to be accepted and searching for the approval of others, rather than just being comfortable with themselves. For example, the thirst is real on social media – if you haven’t noticed. Life isn’t about who you try to be, or who you pretend to be, so that you can feel like you are a part of something. It’s about living on your own terms and being the person you want to be. If you are constantly wearing a mask, and at some point you take that mask off, your true identity may not be under it anymore. Don’t be a crybaby. Life isn’t about being a crybaby and finding every excuse to make as to why things aren’t working out. It’s about being resourceful and finding a way to solve problems and constantly excel. Making excuses, placing the blame and whining like a bitch won’t get you too far, and no one will feel bad for you. Be that person that looks at challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than signs of defeat. Don’t be involved in drama. A buddy of mine and I had a conversation recently. This friend is someone I grew up with, and we were laughing at the things we were so worried about ten years ago that don’t have any significance now, and the same thing goes for the things that we thought were important just five years ago. Being someone that is involved in drama, talking shit or trying to get the latest gossip on things may seem fun at the time, and it may seem somewhat important because you are really interested in the matter in the moment, but consider how much simpler your life could be if you distanced yourself from all the drama and stopped worrying about nonsense that won’t matter in a few years. Don’t forget to smile. It’s such a simple act, but an act that we, as humans, tend to take for granted. Give someone a smile that wouldn’t expect it, or take a few minutes out of your busy day just to laugh to yourself about something you may find funny. It is said that laughing helps you live longer. Act like a kid, and enjoy the moments that life throws your way, rather than over-thinking them. Don’t over-think. Do you ever realize when you start thinking too much, you can’t sleep, start imagining situations that aren’t necessarily happening and start becoming more hesitant? As great of an ability as thinking is, you need to cut down on it and go with your gut instinct. Be present in the moment, rather than being there physically and somewhere else mentally. Closing thought: In the grand scheme of things, 30,000 days isn’t that much time. Each day ahead of you is another chance for you to enjoy the beauty of life and the little things that we are lucky enough to experience as humans. Don’t take life too seriously, and for the times it gets tough, get a helmet.

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You Have 30,000 Days To Live 2k Shares Elite Daily Staff Elite Daily Staff in Generation Y Jun 28, 2013 12:30pm Like Us On Facebook Think about it. Did you know that you actually have 30,000 days of life to experience? When you lump it up into one sum number and take away the years, it doesn’t really seem like that many days. It sounds a lot better when we put it into perceptive in years, seeing as we look at years as long periods of time and days as short periods of time. To have just a mere 30,000 days to live means there really isn’t as much time as we originally thought. The average age people live up to is 82 years old, and even that is not guaranteed. It’s not like there is a certain assured time we will all make it to. 82 years is nothing more than merely an average. If you take that average 82 years and multiple it by the 365 days in a year, the number you end up with is roughly 30,000 days of living, so for purposes of this article we’ll stick to that. But one is not to forget, this isn’t a marathon leading up to the 30,000th day. This is the game of life, and anything could happen at anytime. Most people don’t even get 30,000 days, but some people make it past 30,000 days. Think about your life and how a good amount of those 30,000 days have already passed by. Some days have been well spent, others maybe not so much. People across centuries have tried to figure out the accurate definition of life. One thing to remember is that there is no true definition of life, as life is series of events that are unique to each individual. No person ever lives the same 30,000 days as someone else – that’s the beauty of life. If it was the same for all of us, we would be living like robots with our lives planned out for us. But wait a second. Isn’t that what life has turned out to be? More and more people have accepted life as something that is predestined, rather than something that is waiting to undergo change, like an empty canvas. The thing about living 30,000 days is that they go by faster than you would ever accept. Look back at your life up to this point, and think to yourself how fast it really went by. Even if you wasted a day, it’s still a day gone by and one that you can never get back. Life is about living to the fullest, as everyone knows, and thanks to Drake for constantly reminding us with his ever so popular acronym. Unfortunately, I can’t tell you how to live your life because it would be unfair to generalize everyone’s life with one person’s concise understanding and doings, but what I can tell you is how not to spend your 30,000 days. The goal of life is to be on your last of the 30,000 days, and when you look back through your mental timeline, you have a smile on your face. The issue is most people regret a lot of their actions and can’t look back with a smile. Thus, the point of this is to help you avoid just that and to be one of the few that actually enjoys life without feeling like you just have to live it to live it. Here are the things you shouldn’t do during your 30,000 days: Don’t do something you hate. According to Business Insider, the average person spends about 90,000 hours of their life working. To put it into perspective, that is about 3,750 days out of your 30,000 days to live. That’s roughly 10 percent of your life dedicated to what you do to earn a living. Many people have forgotten that your job and the industry you’re in is actually a choice, rather than something you have to do because it seems like the safe and right thing, or even something that was pushed upon you by your parents. A recent Gallup poll showed proof that out of 100 million Americans, 70 million actually hate their jobs. This comes as not much of a surprise, as you will constantly hear people say they hate what they do, hate their jobs and don’t feel moved by it. What you need to realize is that there is a difference between a job and a career. A job is something that you have in the short term, and you use it to get by, without being so actively engaged, and just doing the bare minimum to get by. A career is a passion. It is what you love to do. It is what keeps you up late at night working, and it is what truly doesn’t even feel like work. Don’t be one of those many people on this planet that gets sucked into a job and stays miserable with it forever. Don’t be with someone you don’t want to be with. You see it all the time, especially in Generation-Y. People nowadays have a tough time managing their love lives and end up stuck in relationships with people they don’t really want to be with. These people might be with them for stupid reasons like they’re too insecure to move on, or they’re actually afraid to be alone. If you don’t want to be with someone, and if they don’t make you happy, then what is the point of dating them? Essentially, getting stuck in this type of situation is a waste of time, and it is a waste of a good portion of your 30,000 days. It is not written it stone anywhere that we have to always be dating, nor does it say that we should stay with someone we don’t want to be with, but have something holding us back. There are 3.5 billion people of the opposite sex out there. I’m sure there is someone better out there for you, rather than wasting your time and energy with someone that won’t be apart of your life in a year. Explore a little, live a little and meet new people. Don’t get too caught up. I once met someone that had a good chunk of his life taken away to federal prison – ten years to be exact, for committing a white-collar crime. I spoke to him a few months after he became a free man again and asked about the biggest thing he learned from his whole experience. The one thing he stressed to me, out of everything, was that he learned how to appreciate life. Most of us – all of us – have the issue of getting too caught up with things in life that don’t really matter and fail to realize the true beauty of life. He told me that he now appreciates the smallest things, whether it’s a beautiful day, or a rainy day. Life is about being present and being grateful for the moments and the little things that we are given. When we are not present, like most of us usually are as we’re constantly on our phones and worrying about things that have nothing to do with the present, that is when we miss out on the true beauty of life, where the “little things” are. Don’t be someone you are not. If you speak to anyone on the brink of their last few days of life and you ask what is one of the few things they regret, one of the greatest regrets a person dwells on is that they ended up trying to be someone they aren’t over the course of their life. We live in a world where people within our society are constantly looking to be accepted and searching for the approval of others, rather than just being comfortable with themselves. For example, the thirst is real on social media – if you haven’t noticed. Life isn’t about who you try to be, or who you pretend to be, so that you can feel like you are a part of something. It’s about living on your own terms and being the person you want to be. If you are constantly wearing a mask, and at some point you take that mask off, your true identity may not be under it anymore. Don’t be a crybaby. Life isn’t about being a crybaby and finding every excuse to make as to why things aren’t working out. It’s about being resourceful and finding a way to solve problems and constantly excel. Making excuses, placing the blame and whining like a bitch won’t get you too far, and no one will feel bad for you. Be that person that looks at challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than signs of defeat. Don’t be involved in drama. A buddy of mine and I had a conversation recently. This friend is someone I grew up with, and we were laughing at the things we were so worried about ten years ago that don’t have any significance now, and the same thing goes for the things that we thought were important just five years ago. Being someone that is involved in drama, talking shit or trying to get the latest gossip on things may seem fun at the time, and it may seem somewhat important because you are really interested in the matter in the moment, but consider how much simpler your life could be if you distanced yourself from all the drama and stopped worrying about nonsense that won’t matter in a few years. Don’t forget to smile. It’s such a simple act, but an act that we, as humans, tend to take for granted. Give someone a smile that wouldn’t expect it, or take a few minutes out of your busy day just to laugh to yourself about something you may find funny. It is said that laughing helps you live longer. Act like a kid, and enjoy the moments that life throws your way, rather than over-thinking them. Don’t over-think. Do you ever realize when you start thinking too much, you can’t sleep, start imagining situations that aren’t necessarily happening and start becoming more hesitant? As great of an ability as thinking is, you need to cut down on it and go with your gut instinct. Be present in the moment, rather than being there physically and somewhere else mentally. Closing thought: In the grand scheme of things, 30,000 days isn’t that much time. Each day ahead of you is another chance for you to enjoy the beauty of life and the little things that we are lucky enough to experience as humans. Don’t take life too seriously, and for the times it gets tough, get a helmet.

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You Have 30,000 Days To Live 2k Shares Elite Daily Staff Elite Daily Staff in Generation Y Jun 28, 2013 12:30pm Like Us On Facebook Think about it. Did you know that you actually have 30,000 days of life to experience? When you lump it up into one sum number and take away the years, it doesn’t really seem like that many days. It sounds a lot better when we put it into perceptive in years, seeing as we look at years as long periods of time and days as short periods of time. To have just a mere 30,000 days to live means there really isn’t as much time as we originally thought. The average age people live up to is 82 years old, and even that is not guaranteed. It’s not like there is a certain assured time we will all make it to. 82 years is nothing more than merely an average. If you take that average 82 years and multiple it by the 365 days in a year, the number you end up with is roughly 30,000 days of living, so for purposes of this article we’ll stick to that. But one is not to forget, this isn’t a marathon leading up to the 30,000th day. This is the game of life, and anything could happen at anytime. Most people don’t even get 30,000 days, but some people make it past 30,000 days. Think about your life and how a good amount of those 30,000 days have already passed by. Some days have been well spent, others maybe not so much. People across centuries have tried to figure out the accurate definition of life. One thing to remember is that there is no true definition of life, as life is series of events that are unique to each individual. No person ever lives the same 30,000 days as someone else – that’s the beauty of life. If it was the same for all of us, we would be living like robots with our lives planned out for us. But wait a second. Isn’t that what life has turned out to be? More and more people have accepted life as something that is predestined, rather than something that is waiting to undergo change, like an empty canvas. The thing about living 30,000 days is that they go by faster than you would ever accept. Look back at your life up to this point, and think to yourself how fast it really went by. Even if you wasted a day, it’s still a day gone by and one that you can never get back. Life is about living to the fullest, as everyone knows, and thanks to Drake for constantly reminding us with his ever so popular acronym. Unfortunately, I can’t tell you how to live your life because it would be unfair to generalize everyone’s life with one person’s concise understanding and doings, but what I can tell you is how not to spend your 30,000 days. The goal of life is to be on your last of the 30,000 days, and when you look back through your mental timeline, you have a smile on your face. The issue is most people regret a lot of their actions and can’t look back with a smile. Thus, the point of this is to help you avoid just that and to be one of the few that actually enjoys life without feeling like you just have to live it to live it. Here are the things you shouldn’t do during your 30,000 days: Don’t do something you hate. According to Business Insider, the average person spends about 90,000 hours of their life working. To put it into perspective, that is about 3,750 days out of your 30,000 days to live. That’s roughly 10 percent of your life dedicated to what you do to earn a living. Many people have forgotten that your job and the industry you’re in is actually a choice, rather than something you have to do because it seems like the safe and right thing, or even something that was pushed upon you by your parents. A recent Gallup poll showed proof that out of 100 million Americans, 70 million actually hate their jobs. This comes as not much of a surprise, as you will constantly hear people say they hate what they do, hate their jobs and don’t feel moved by it. What you need to realize is that there is a difference between a job and a career. A job is something that you have in the short term, and you use it to get by, without being so actively engaged, and just doing the bare minimum to get by. A career is a passion. It is what you love to do. It is what keeps you up late at night working, and it is what truly doesn’t even feel like work. Don’t be one of those many people on this planet that gets sucked into a job and stays miserable with it forever. Don’t be with someone you don’t want to be with. You see it all the time, especially in Generation-Y. People nowadays have a tough time managing their love lives and end up stuck in relationships with people they don’t really want to be with. These people might be with them for stupid reasons like they’re too insecure to move on, or they’re actually afraid to be alone. If you don’t want to be with someone, and if they don’t make you happy, then what is the point of dating them? Essentially, getting stuck in this type of situation is a waste of time, and it is a waste of a good portion of your 30,000 days. It is not written it stone anywhere that we have to always be dating, nor does it say that we should stay with someone we don’t want to be with, but have something holding us back. There are 3.5 billion people of the opposite sex out there. I’m sure there is someone better out there for you, rather than wasting your time and energy with someone that won’t be apart of your life in a year. Explore a little, live a little and meet new people. Don’t get too caught up. I once met someone that had a good chunk of his life taken away to federal prison – ten years to be exact, for committing a white-collar crime. I spoke to him a few months after he became a free man again and asked about the biggest thing he learned from his whole experience. The one thing he stressed to me, out of everything, was that he learned how to appreciate life. Most of us – all of us – have the issue of getting too caught up with things in life that don’t really matter and fail to realize the true beauty of life. He told me that he now appreciates the smallest things, whether it’s a beautiful day, or a rainy day. Life is about being present and being grateful for the moments and the little things that we are given. When we are not present, like most of us usually are as we’re constantly on our phones and worrying about things that have nothing to do with the present, that is when we miss out on the true beauty of life, where the “little things” are. Don’t be someone you are not. If you speak to anyone on the brink of their last few days of life and you ask what is one of the few things they regret, one of the greatest regrets a person dwells on is that they ended up trying to be someone they aren’t over the course of their life. We live in a world where people within our society are constantly looking to be accepted and searching for the approval of others, rather than just being comfortable with themselves. For example, the thirst is real on social media – if you haven’t noticed. Life isn’t about who you try to be, or who you pretend to be, so that you can feel like you are a part of something. It’s about living on your own terms and being the person you want to be. If you are constantly wearing a mask, and at some point you take that mask off, your true identity may not be under it anymore. Don’t be a crybaby. Life isn’t about being a crybaby and finding every excuse to make as to why things aren’t working out. It’s about being resourceful and finding a way to solve problems and constantly excel. Making excuses, placing the blame and whining like a bitch won’t get you too far, and no one will feel bad for you. Be that person that looks at challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than signs of defeat. Don’t be involved in drama. A buddy of mine and I had a conversation recently. This friend is someone I grew up with, and we were laughing at the things we were so worried about ten years ago that don’t have any significance now, and the same thing goes for the things that we thought were important just five years ago. Being someone that is involved in drama, talking shit or trying to get the latest gossip on things may seem fun at the time, and it may seem somewhat important because you are really interested in the matter in the moment, but consider how much simpler your life could be if you distanced yourself from all the drama and stopped worrying about nonsense that won’t matter in a few years. Don’t forget to smile. It’s such a simple act, but an act that we, as humans, tend to take for granted. Give someone a smile that wouldn’t expect it, or take a few minutes out of your busy day just to laugh to yourself about something you may find funny. It is said that laughing helps you live longer. Act like a kid, and enjoy the moments that life throws your way, rather than over-thinking them. Don’t over-think. Do you ever realize when you start thinking too much, you can’t sleep, start imagining situations that aren’t necessarily happening and start becoming more hesitant? As great of an ability as thinking is, you need to cut down on it and go with your gut instinct. Be present in the moment, rather than being there physically and somewhere else mentally. Closing thought: In the grand scheme of things, 30,000 days isn’t that much time. Each day ahead of you is another chance for you to enjoy the beauty of life and the little things that we are lucky enough to experience as humans. Don’t take life too seriously, and for the times it gets tough, get a helmet.

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Give, not take.

The greatest feeling in the world is to give. Give your attention, give your time, give your concern, give your knowledge and if you're lucky enough, you give your money aswell.

To make others happy is one of my biggest source of happiness. To see people smile can make me smile aswell. I feel full. Nothing can make me more happier than that. I said NOTHING.

I've been to several charity lately. I been volunteering to a couple of charity. The first one is English without borders. I Made video for their campaign. I went to their site to record all of their activities. I really touched by how they concern about giving their knowledge to less fortunate children. I am so lucky that I can be part of them. It is not like things that money can buy. It is a very wonderful feeling.

The picture taken at Cimahpar Bogor, Rumah Lentera Masyarakat. Where they gather kids who come from less fortunate family and give them English lesson. English is one of the most important language that they need to learn. I was so touched of how they really excited to learn, I can see it in their sparkly eyes.

I can't be more happier to see they smile. Wonderful.

66 things to remember as a twenty something

1. Life is way too short to feel embarrassed.

2. Tinder is for sex, and sex only.

3. If your relationship is shit, there are 7 billion other people out there. You’re too young. Seriously.

4. Being selectively social is totally acceptable.

5. Listen with the intent to understand.

6. Stop comparing yourself to others.

7. Never beg for anyone- and I mean anyone.

8. If you sleep with him on the first date, chances are you won’t get a second.

9. Breakups are not the end of the world. Cry it out and then move on.

10. There are actual decent guys out there. Chivalry is only dead if you let it be.

11. Facebook messages are a form of romance.

12. If you have a gut feeling about somebody, chances are you’re probably right.

13. “Maybe” usually means “no”.

14. If a guy is interested in you, you will know it without having to ask.

15. Not everything happens for a reason.

16. Playing mind games has always been and always will be childish.

17. If you’re about to do something to impress a guy, don’t.

18. Be yourself when you first meet people, and always.

19. After you make a mistake, vow to never make the same one again.

20. Take advice from others but whatever it is you were going to do, do it anyway.

21. Don’t judge people by their looks.

22. It’s okay to break down. It is actually sign of strength.

23. Your mom is and always will be your biggest fan.

24. Stop trying to be the “chill” girl. It’s really un-chill.

25. Trust yourself with decisions you’ve made. You made them for a reason.

26. You will grow apart from friends you were once extremely close with. Its happens, it’s life.

27. Always stick up for what you believe is right.

28. Be weird.

29. One night stands aren’t just for guys. You aren’t a whore if you have them.

30. No means no. And if a guy can’t respect that then stay far away from him.

31. Put your phone down and pay attention to your surroundings.

32. Losing love is better than never having it at all.

33. No one’s life is as perfect as it appears to be on Instagram. It’s a scam.

34. Stop apologizing for things that you shouldn’t.

35. If you really want something, go for it.

36. Also, patience is key.

37. There is no specific age that you need to have your life figured out by. Again, patience is key.

38. Owning up to your mistakes is a lot more liberating than you’d think it would be.

39. Also, your mistakes do not define who you are as a person.

40. People will forget what you said but never forget how you made them feel. Consider that.

41. No one’s life is as fun as it looks on Instagram.

42. Being alone is very different from being lonely.

43. Nothing ever happens how you imagine it will.

44. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.

45. Needing space is totally normal.

46. If you don’t go out tonight you aren’t missing out on anything.

47. Having a strong work ethic is sexy.

48. You cannot change somebody. They must want to change themselves in order to do so.

49. Work to live, not the other way around.

50. Don’t take people for granted and don’t let people take you for granted.

51. You can be outgoing and introverted at the same time.

52. It’s okay to text a guy first. There’s no rule against it.

53. One-word responses don’t always mean what we think they mean.

54. Over-thinking a situation kills it. 100% of the time, every time.

55. People who you can go months without talking to and will still be there in a heartbeat are people you should always keep around.

56. Do not respond to a guy’s text message after 12 am. It’s a booty call, I promise.

57. You can learn how to vent without complaining.

58. It’s a bad day, not a bad life.

59. Depression is ludicrously different than being sad.

60. You are in absolute control of your actions, and your reactions.

61. With that being said, not every situation needs a reaction.

62. You don’t need to be an asshole to get ahead in life, but also don’t become a pushover.

63. No one is entitled to anything.

64. Stop dating only for the sake of dating. Being single isn’t always a bad thing.

65. Nothing is considered “wasted time” if you learn from it.

66. It’s impossible to fail if you never give up

Source : THOUGHT CATALOGUE

Think of what makes you happy

Well, I can't be pessimist for too long. I still have a bright future. Yes I really really believe that despite of my bitter past.

Things will get better. Not now but eventually. I will be a badass woman one day. I will. I surely will. With or without men, with or without somebody by my side. I know I have my self that I can rely on.

Just think of good things. Smile. Imagine things that makes you happy. Even just simple things like where you want to be.

Sometimes I allowed myself to be sad or pessimist, but I made a list of things that makes me happy.

I just let my mind wondering, never put fence on It. I can be wherever I want in my mind. I imagine that feeling. Happy feeling where noone can find me. Where I have the solitude doing whatever I want. It comes from your mind. Yes. Nobody can stop you from getting whatever the hell you want in your mind.

You can do anything. Just be happy first hes!

Time to Re-connect

It was not a quiet happy moment when I think I was all alone with nobody by my side, when I think I don't even have friend to share. But wait, I had many friends before. Where are they?

We are too drawn to our busy life and sometimes forget about our old friends. Not forget (because we all friends on Facebook ) but we think that they have their own happy life and too afraid to say hello, afraid that they call us creepy or have behind agenda and maybe they do the same to you too.

When friends can be stranger and they're just nothing but another status on Instagram or Facebook, maybe this is the time to re-connect or just simply hello, asking how are you or reminisce old times. You don't know maybe they need your help at that moment, it is happy to help even just to listen to their problems.

Sometimes I'm too "afraid" to say hello and leave people behind because I know people are seems happier than me and they don't need my help. I saw many people walk away from my life before and I don't want to lost another.

I found this interesting quotes from How I met your mother,

"You will be shocked when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That's why when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it." —Ted Mosby,How I Met Your Mother Season 9 Episode 21: "Gary Blauman"

So far, I've been reconnect to few friends from junior high school, High school and College. So happy to talk to them and meet them, changing story. Because we didn't meet for no reason. we crossed path and I'm grateful to meet them.

So, what do you waiting for? do something. give your time to say hello and mean it.

Bubble

6 PM. Sipping a hot coffee alone in a one of a coffee shops in the middle of Jakarta while listening to How Many more times - Lisa Ekhdahl. What a perfect afternoon to spend. Just for a moment to clear my head from everything. A moment to celebrate my free time.

I'm watching people from the distance having their conversation. they live in their own bubble. bubble. I'm curious what if somehow we can see what people had in their mind. Are they thinking about their work? personal life? or maybe love? it will be so interesting to know their stories.

Somehow now I remembered about something my lecturer, Mr. Thomas Apitzsch told me years ago. We are people just like a goldfish in their own fishbowl. It made me thinking so hard at that time. not that hard, but hard enough to question everything. He was right though.

I thinking about nationalities or people by their place to live ( I don't know why I analized from that perspective), so we are one or many fish live in one fishbowl, we don't have any idea about other fishbowl outside our fishbowl, only we can see it if our water clear enough and not far enough. all we can do is wondering what other's fishbowl thinking. But as a fish we can have that capability to jump over the fishbowl and visit other fishbowl. It takes courage and energy. Every fish have that ability but not many fish can take the leap.

So yeah, my random thought this afternoon. Made me thinking about it more now. This is my bubble right now. What's yours?

I Am The ENTP!

It is always fun to know your personality,  Isabel Briggs Myers created the sixteen personality types with the help of her mother, Katharine Briggs, and the theories of psychologist Carl Jung. Since then, much research has been done into how each type functions at work, at home, and in relationships.

After more than one test, I found out this is my personality.

ENTP

Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving

"Clever" is the word that perhaps describes ENTPs best. The professor who juggles half a dozen ideas for research papers and grant proposals in his mind while giving a highly entertaining lecture on an abstruse subject is a classic example of the type. So is the stand-up comedian whose lampoons are both funny and incisively accurate.

ENTPs are usually verbally as well as cerebrally quick, and generally love to argue--both for its own sake, and to show off their debating skills. ENTPs tend to have a perverse sense of humor as well, and enjoy playing devil's advocate. This sometimes confuses, even angers, those who don't understand or accept the concept of argument as a sport.

ENTPs are as innovative and ingenious at problem-solving as they are at verbal gymnastics; on occasion, however, they manage to outsmart themselves. ENTPs can be prone to "sharp practice" – especially cutting corners without regard to the rules if it's expedient – or, their juggling acts may simply be so over-ambitious they collapse.

Both at work and at home, ENTPs are very fond of "toys" -- physical or intellectual, the more sophisticated the better. Once these have been "solved" or become too familiar, however, they’ll be replaced with new ones.

ENTPs are basically optimists, but in spite of this (perhaps because of it?), they can become petulant about small setbacks and inconveniences. (Major setbacks they regard as challenges, and tackle with determination.) ENTPs have little patience with those they consider wrongheaded or unintelligent, and show little restraint in demonstrating this. In general, however, they are genial, even charming, when not being harassed by life.

In terms of their relationships with others, ENTPs are capable of bonding very closely and suddenly with their loved ones. Some appear deceptively offhand with their nearest and dearest; others are so demonstrative that they succeed in shocking co-workers who've only seen their professional side. ENTPs are also quick to spot a kindred spirit, and good at acquiring friends of similar temperament and interests.

ENTPs may sometimes give the impression of being largely oblivious to the rest of humanity except as an audience: good, bad, or potential. In general this is unfair – but it can be difficult to get an ENTP’s attention when they’re not immediately aware of you, especially for an Introvert.
The best approach in communicating with an ENTP is to be straightforward. No games – they’ll win. No "pulling rank" – they’ll just want to put you in your place. No apologies – you’ll undermine yourself. Try "I need/want to talk to you."

(ENTP stands for Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving and represents individual's preferences in four dimensions characterising personality type, according to Jung's and Briggs Myers' theories of personality type.)

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Functional Analysis Of The ENTP

Based on Jung’s framework of cognitive functions

Extraverted iNtuition

ENTPs are nothing if not unique. Brave new associations flow freely from the unconscious into the world of the living. Making, discovering and developing connections between and among two or more of anything is virtually automatic. The product of intuition is merely an icon of process; ENTPs are in the business of change, improvement, experimentation.

The attraction Extraverted iNtuition has toward the real and physical amounts to a cosmic non sequitur: theory is drawn to practice. Such encounters are clearly puzzling. Both parties--the intuitor and the realist--are aware of a xenic quality in their meeting, with reactions ranging from recoil to reverie.

Introverted Thinking

Thinking is iNtuition's ready assistant, an embodiment of the sort of logic found in laws, boards and circuits. Thinking's job is to lend focus and direction to iNtuition's critical mass. The temporary habitations of changeling iNtuition are constructed of Boolean materials from Thinking's storehouse. Ultimately, Thinking is no match for iNtuition's prodigiousness. Systems lie in various states of disarray, fragmentary traces of Thinking's feverish attempts to shadow and undergird the leaps of the dominant function. One can only suppose that Thinking must continue to work during REM sleep pulling together iNtuition's brainchildren into integral wholes.

Extraverted Feeling

To the extent that Feeling is developed, ENTPs extravert Feeling judgment. As a result, it is not uncommon to find affability and bonhomie in members of this species. Tertiary functions are potentially utilitarian. Their limitations appear in their relative underdevelopment, diminished endurance, and vulnerability. ENTPs may harness Feeling's good will in areas such as sales, service, drama, humor and art. ENTP loyalty often runs high and can be hooked by those the ENTP counts as friends.

Introverted Sensing

Like a tail on the kite of iNtuition, Introverted Sensing counterweighs these beings drawn to nonconformity and anarchy. These shadowy sensory forms, so familiar to SJ types, serve as lodestones which many ENTPs employ Herculean measures to escape. "Question authority! (then do exactly what it tells you)" sums up the dilemma in which ENTPs may find themselves by attempting to best the tarbaby Sensing. Occasionally acknowledging awareness of norms and abnormality could, in theory, be potentially freeing.
Additionally, I've noticed that ENTPs have the need to have areas of expertise/excellence/uniqueness in which one is second to none. I've never beaten an ENTP at his/her own game--not in the final analysis. (e.g., just tonight, my neighbor who is recuperating from an illness received a call from an ENTP friend offering his special recipe for tea. The instructions required only the finest ingredients, a particular brand of orange juice, tea made with a ball--none of those horrid teabags--..., which will of course make the best tea of which he himself drinks 50 gallons each winter!)

ENTP Communication Skills

In the process of communication, ENTPs try to bring to light the logical connections between phenomena and events and provide explanations for them. They find great satisfaction in having their inferences recognized by the other party.

ENTPs are interesting and easy to talk to, although some of their conversation partners may be exhausted by the somewhat adversarial form their communication takes. As a rule, ENTPs feel at ease conversing in a group, while they actively assert their independent view on the topic of discussion. For them, friendly conversations usually work out with people of equal intellect.

In communication, ENTPs usually come across as confident, precise and objective. They strive to maintain their characteristic objective and methodical evaluation, even when discussing topics relating to the finer feelings of the soul. Thus, for example, topics of love and lyric poetry also make them want to find ways to analyze the subject of the emotions.

The typical social circle of ENTPs for the most part consists of relatives, friends and co-workers. At the same time, ENTPs are quick off the mark and communicate fairly actively with a variety of different people at parties, meetings and recreational gatherings.

As a rule, business communication of ENTPs is intense. To their colleagues (or other people working in the same field), it is important to figure out an ENTP’s in-depth expert opinion on many professional issues. The topics of discussion for ENTPs usually include exchange of opinions and ideas, and critical analysis of new approaches and methods.

ENTP: Strategies for Successful Communication

ENTPs engage easily with people of the same mindset, or, to put it differently, with those of intuitive/thinking (NT) personality types such as ENTJ, INTJ, ENFP, and INTP. People in this group have roughly the same method for understanding the world, which is why ENTPs easily share their thoughts with other NTs, and in turn comprehend their reasoning or views.

When communicating with sensory/thinking (ST) people including ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, and ISTP personality types, ENTPs should keep to communication based on facts and their direct consequences. Although this method of communication may seem to ENTPs somewhat dry, they can easily adapt to it. As for people from the ST group, when it comes to their thought patterns, this style of communication fits those most, and is easy for them to comprehend.

When conversing with people of intuitive/feeling types (NF), including ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, and INFP personality types, ENTPs need to adhere to communication mostly based on ideas, concepts and theories. Communication between ENTPs and people in this group, as a rule, touches on variety of topics and is beneficial to both parties. And while ENTPs try to maintain as objective a view as possible, whereas a significant proportion of representatives of the NF group judge situations based on their feelings, nevertheless, they often find common ground necessary for effective communication and finding solutions.

For ENTPs, communication is most difficult with people of sensory/feeling types (SF), including ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, and ISFP personality types. When conversing with SF people, ENTPs should adhere to communication that is based on feelings, facts, and concrete sensations. However, the problem is that it can be difficult for ENTPs to keep up the conversation by those means. They may have to struggle to find argumentation that can better resonate with members of the SF group, which often either leads to ENTPs trying to wind down the conversation or to their stressing over the other party’s “lack of understanding”. In order to ensure a level of communication appropriate for both sides, ENTPs need to prepare themselves for a style of communication that suits SF people, beforehand.

 How to determine which personality type group another person belongs to?

What helps successful communication for an ENTP:

• The topic of discussion is conceptual in nature
• There is a need to find hidden, unobvious possibilities
• The discussion requires a good understanding of logical connections
• The topic calls for a creative approach
• The other party is an NT or NF person

What hinders successful communication for an ENTP:

• The topic material has weak logical connections
• The topic is of purely practical, mundane nature
• The topic heavily involves the finer feelings of the soul for too long
• Long communication with SF people

Source : http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/entp